Unlikely Friendship? The Case of St Mary Magdalene

St Mary Magdalene as Penitent by Pedro de Mena
By Nicolás Pérez – Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=10226663

St Mary Magdalene and Some Women of Our Own Day who Attract a Negative Press

During one of our recent long, hot, sticky nights I found myself thinking about the hostility of the Taliban to the education of women and girls, and what that might mean for the people of Afghanistan and wherever the Taliban hold influence. From there it was a short step to considering the antipathy many in the West have shown towards Malala, Greta Thunberg or, in a completely different sphere, Emma Raducano. It would be wrong to say the aggressive and belittling remarks they have had to endure are the monopoly of a few middle-aged men (I can certainly point to some really nasty comments by women), but middle-aged men do seem to have been peculiarly irritated by them. For me, that helps to explain the Church’s long-standing awkwardness about Mary Magdalene and the ambivalence in some circles about her being officially proclaimed ‘Apostle to the Apostles’ and her liturgical commemoration being raised to the dignity of a feast. As to her friendship with Jesus, I quite see why, for some, that is beyond the pale. She is too clingy, too feminine — despite being as tough as they come.

How We Like Our Saints To Be

Is it as simple as saying most men (and many women) don’t like smart women, and clerical men feel happier if female saints are either on a pedestal of unassailable purity (e.g. Our Lady, St Thérèse of Lisieux) or can be dismissed as ‘no better than they should be’ and classed either as prostitutes (which St Mary Magdalene was not) or penitents, suggesting that there is something murky in the background? For every dozen men who have waxed lyrical about St Thérèse, for example, I doubt I have heard even one express warm, personal admiration for St Mary Magdalene. Is that why the thought of Jesus and Mary being such good friends as the gospels suggest has led some to speculate that there was a sexual relationship between them (for which there is no evidence) while others dismiss her as being somehow a fringe figure in Christian history (which is absurd). Then there are those who think that Mary Magdalene was more significant than Peter, and there is a huge conspiracy behind the hierarchy of the Church today — an attitude I find equally absurd on the same grounds as those who propose it: the evidence. The plain truth is that Jesus Christ saw in Mary something he did not see in Peter, James or John, something loving enough and steely enough to be entrusted with news of the resurrection — and he clearly enjoyed her company, as he enjoyed the company of his other disciples.

St Mary Magdalene as Penitent

The eagle-eyed among you will have noticed my choice of Pedro de Mena’s sculpture to illustrate this post rather than the Fra Angelico or D. Werburg you might have been expecting. It shows Mary as penitent, the way she was viewed for so many centuries in the Church. I have always found it an arresting image and on every visit to Valladolid have always tried to make sure I see it. It proclaims a very important theological truth we are sometimes in danger of forgetting. None of us is without sin. We are all redeemed through God’s gracious action in Christ Jesus. We can concentrate on this aspect or that of a saint’s life, we can be inspired or sometimes the reverse, but we cannot escape the fact of sin. Mary of Magdalene is one of those saints who makes us confront this in ourselves and in others. We are seeing this sin, this sinfulness, in the way in which Traditionis Custodes is being discussed right now: sin has coiled itself round the holiest element of Catholic faith and practice, the celebration of the Eucharist.

We all know that the word eucharist means to give thanks. During two of my most recent hospitalisations, I came very close to dying. As I lay there, wondering if this was indeed to be the end of my earthly life, I found myself reflecting on the efforts people go to for the sake of their ‘legacy’. It didn’t take me long to decide that what I would like for my own legacy is fidelity to the Truth, kindness to others, and gratitude— above all, gratitude, because grace can only grow in a spirit of thanksgiving, and neither fidelity nor kindness is possible without grace. In the gospels St Mary Magdalene exemplifies all these qualities, with a richness of humanity I find immensely attractive. I think she makes a good patron for us still in via, don’t you?


8 thoughts on “Unlikely Friendship? The Case of St Mary Magdalene”

  1. Absolutely. I have her for my special patron saint when I was received. Strength in weakness, love against all the odds, courage and humility.

  2. That was a GREAT article Sister – thank you. I have shared it with our parish WhatsApp group (Our Lady & St Patrick’s in The Meadows, Nottingham) which group, I am sure you will not be surprised to read, is mostly composed of women – and this is the kind of boost we needed.

  3. “fidelity to the Truth, kindness to others, and gratitude— above all, gratitude, because grace can only grow in a spirit of thanksgiving, and neither fidelity nor kindness is possible without grace. In the gospels St Mary Magdalene exemplifies all these qualities, with a richness of humanity I find immensely attractive.”
    Thank you for this revealing these truths about St. Mary Magdalene, and what you and we can aspire to! Excellent teaching and encouragement, Dame Catherine. with love and prayer…B

  4. Yes, she’s a good woman. And one to be brought to mind every time women’s actions, clothes (too many or too little) thoughts and views are criticised for spurious reasons. I remember my mother remarking to a visiting missionary at my childhood parish (St Teresa’s in Nottingham) who had extolled the virtues of St Teresa (obedience, humility, purity and being a little flower) that she and the other women in the UCM who had done the donkey work, didn’t stand a chance being neither virgins nor martyrs and having lived too long. She was swiftly reprimanded.

    How good to read a measured and informed alternative. Just wish the women of the UCM back in the 50s could have heard this.

  5. Amen, dear Sister Catherine. Saint Mary Magdalene is my favourite Saint. But for the Council of Nicea and the misogynist, Pope Gregory, her gospel might have been in the New Testament. As a single woman, she would have been shunned by the Pharisees and most of society then for associating with Jesus and the Apostles. What there is about her in the Gospels and Acts does demonstrate her strength of character and her devotion to the cause.
    Thank you for writing this thoughtful and empathetic piece. God bless and care for you. Peace and love be with you now and always

  6. She makes a beautiful patron, Dame, Sister, Catherine. Thank-you so much for helping keep me
    on a somewhat graceful path. Ruth

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