Grieving the Loss of a Pet by Bro Duncan PBGV

Bro Duncan PBGV in Desert-Father Mode
Bro Duncan PBGV in Desert-Father Mode

From up here in Beyond we see a lot of sadness down below. Human Beans just don’t seem to be able to get along together for very long. I think that is why God allows us dogs to be your companions. We are not with you for very long, but during the time we are, we make you feel very special. You are everything in the world to us and we like to show it with our waggly tails and little barks. We don’t mind if you are a bit thick, or smelly, or have horrible taste. We just like to be with you, in the same way that God does, because we love you. And, of course, we PBGVs have a huge advantage when it comes to being loved back: we are all floppy ears and whiskers and big black noses which make you smile, even when you don’t feel very smiley on the insides. (Don’t let God know: he doesn’t seem to understand that being pictured with a big white beard on a golden throne isn’t ideal PR). Anyway, Human Beans seem to like the way we are always up to mischief, and even those dogs who are not PBGVs — like that young sprog Bro Dyfrig BFdeB — usually become the besties of those they live with. That is why we leave such a horrible gap when we go.

We bound off into Beyond (no Purgatory for us!) and wait for you to join us. Meanwhile, you are sobbing your hearts out and trying to keep a stiff upper lip and saying things like, ‘He was such a beggar for cheese,’ or, ‘Remember that time he ran off and didn’t come back for five hours?’ and hoping everyone will think you’ve got hay fever or something. Then you torment yourselves thinking that perhaps you didn’t do everything you should for us and forgetting that we have one very special God-like quality: we forgive utterly. Yes, there may have been times when you did not understand that we NEEDED to investigate that pile of horse poo or go after that rabbit, but we forgave you. Or the times when you left us alone. You said it was for five minutes max but we know it was hours and hours and hours, but still, we forgave you. Then, when we got a bit creaky in the joints and the vets’ bills began to mount up, we wanted to say sorry to YOU for all the trouble and expense, but all you could see was the old boy failing a bit and we loved you all the more for not minding that we were now the smelly ones. When, finally, you let us go, we wanted to tell you how much you meant to us and that we’d be waiting by the pearly gates for you, but you had to do your bit and make sure you got there by living a Good Life and maybe a successor dog was what you needed to keep you on the Right Path and not to worry about us, because everything for us is perfect — except that we have to wait for you.

Sometimes I look down from Beyond at BigSis and LittleSis and think what a good job I did in making Them realise the importance of dogs to Human Beans. It’s all right to be tearful and miss us, but we won’t be parted for very long. If you are good, we’ll be together for all eternity. My friend St Dominic (Domini canis . . . hound of the Lord, how cool is that?) says that may not be quite theological but everyone will understand. I like St Dominic. He’s not at all fierce when you get to know him, and we’re having a brilliant party for his feast-day today. I just wish They were here, too.

Love and licks,

Dunc xx

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30 thoughts on “Grieving the Loss of a Pet by Bro Duncan PBGV

  1. Wonderfully touching , . A great comfort too , Am often asked by friends if animals go to heaven .Blessed thought .
    I hope this helps the person in the petit group who is suffering so at present .
    Thank you

  2. Leaky eyes hard to see. They don’t live long enough, they are their own character. They never can be “replaced” but we can love again, Thank you Bro. Duncan and you dear Sister.

  3. My mum has tears running down her face reading your post, BroDuncan.

    I fink she’s understood the meaning of your words but says she’s finking of you and Barney having fun in Beyond and keeping an eye on your Human Beans. It’s alright though cos I’m looking after her wiv cuddles. I’ve reminded her she has to be good so we can be together forever in Beyond and be wiv my big brother, Barney, too.

    Woof woof

  4. This is a great comfort to those of us who have shared their lives with pets, both Dogs and Cats. Our hound Della departed for heaven 8 years ago, we still miss her. But the kind vet came to our home to help her to depart peacefully and we were comforted by seeing her suddenly be at peace. She now rests in our garden under a stone, alongside many of the Cats, Sooty, Bobo, Sheba and Tigger, that she shared her life with.

    Later pet residents ashes are awaiting sharing with the resting place, but we can’t bear to part with their ashes at the moment.

    Animals are a blessing to us humans, particularly as we get a little older and unsound of movement, hearing and seeing. The come alongside us, comfort us and console us with undemanding love, and begging for a treat. We can put up with their fur on our clothes and seats, we can tolerate their licks, occasional regurgitation’s and similar accidents.

    They brighten our lives and make us appreciate how the beauty of God’s creation has caused so many to be small, but beautifully formed.

    And it’s a comfort to know that we’ll be reunited along with you in some time to come.

  5. Thank you Brother Duncan for reminding us Human Beans that canine love is eternal and unconditional. Give my old boy sprollie, Jaspy, a lick and a hug for me in the Beyond. Big Sis misses you lots. God bless xx

  6. We now have a PBGV living in our condo building. Though we’d been introduced while out walking we found ourselves entering our building following Mass one evening as he and his owner were returning from a walk. He began his baying and put up quite a show until we’d all made it indoors. Thereafter and right up til now he demonstrates a bashfulness upon meeting us, as though he understands he made a “mistake” in thinking us intruders rather than neighbours and is quite friendly. That face, those eyes and yes, quite a waggy tail!

    When God entrusted animals to us He must have known we’d benefit from them apart from food. We’re blessed by their presence in our lives, whether they be dogs, cats, budgies or whatever.

  7. I seem to hear a chorus of my Late Canine Lovelies* saying to me “You see? We always told you about meeting up again, didn’t we?”…..they bounce off happily, laughing and tutting slightly about how silly Human Beans can be……

    * in chronological order…Candy, Penny, Suzie, Beetle, Wiggy, Flo and Suki

  8. I just lost my two beautiful, loving Welshies within three months of each other. My old boy OwenBowen was 18, and very sick with arthritis and Cushings. The vet came to my house…and he passed over peacefully on my bed.
    My little girl , Miss Merry was only 23 months old, bitten by a brown snake out of the blue. We live in Australia. I’m inconsolable, my sorrow is beyond comprehension…she was a good girl who comforted me after my first loss.I cannot bear to live alone now.They are everywhere I go and walk.my babies gone, it’s so unfair for my little one, she loved life .

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