Why me, Lord?

When bad things happen to us, there is a tendency to say, ‘Why me, Lord?’ Intellectually, we know we could with equal truth say, ‘Why not me?’ but the temptation to believe we have been singled out for some especially bad luck/fate is strong. It is so unfair, we murmur, what have we done to deserve this? Most of the time we haven’t done anything to ‘deserve’ what happens to us, good or ill, but trying to make sense of what happens to us, to assert our mastery over our fate, is as old as the hills. Understanding what happens is as important as what actually occurs, but very often we haven’t the necessary knowledge or we lack the assurance to interpret the facts correctly. That’s when we turn to the experts, but the experts themselves are often at a loss to explain why this person went blind or that person got cancer or the one over there was swept away by a tsunami. We invoke science, not realising that what science doesn’t yet know is as huge as what it does know.

Personally, I find the prospect of there being an infinity of knowledge to discover and explore utterly fascinating. We can rejoice in the complexity of the world around us and be very glad to be living now, when much that was formerly hidden has been made plain. It should enhance our sense of God’s beauty and majesty. More importantly, it should help convince us of God’s love for his creation and give credibility to his assertion that the very hairs of our head have been numbered. There may be days when we stumble around asking ‘Why me, Lord?’ but, hopefully, there are many more when we just say, ‘Thank you, Lord’ and glory in what his hands have wrought. May today be one such for you.


4 thoughts on “Why me, Lord?”

  1. I think that I’ve said “Why me Lord” more times than is healthy, but perhaps in pique rather than in Earnest.

    The one time that I asked it in Earnest was that time when I felt the call of a vocation to Ordained Ministry, this was because I didn’t believe that I was a fit person for such a ministry and couldn’t believe that the vocation I was struggling to discern was genuine and I was really worried about wasting people’s time.

    In the end, the Vocation was affirmed from Parish and through Diocesan selection, but fell at the hurdle of National Selection – than again I asked the Question “Why me God” but in terms of “What now God” a question that I’m still struggling to answer.

    I’m hoping that my going to a Vocations Day on 15th February entitled “What’s your Calling” might just answer part of that question.

    Sometimes it feels as if I’m being tested, but I’m sure that it’s part of the plan that God has for us all, I and the Church just haven’t yet worked out what that part might be?

  2. “Thank you, Lord” is a good starting point for living life with a sense of gratitude. “If only” and “what if” are cousins of “why me” and not generally helpful in our spiritual growth, something it has taken the two of us the better part of our lives to realize.

  3. When I heard that my father was dying of Motor Neurone Disease I asked ‘Why him, God?’ – very angrily. And the answer I got was a sudden and overwhelmingly ‘real’ sense of God’s presence, even of God’s arms around me. This is not a common experience for me and not something I was expecting.

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