Jesus is not my Boyfriend

We are made of stern stuff here in the monastery and are celebrating the feast of SS Cyril and Methodius, apostles of the Slavs. Not for us the wine and roses of St Valentine’s Day, although I did hear someone reciting Donne after breakfast and stopped what I was doing to listen. There is no finer poet of love in the English language, engaging mind as well as heart.

Donne, however, is not my subject this morning but the misapplication of the Bride of Christ theme. From time to time I look at an American web site frequented by (mainly) young people discerning a vocation and cringe at some of the soppier expressions of what is, I am sure, at base a very genuine love of the Lord. The sponsa Christi imagery applied to nuns and consecrated virgins is certainly valid, but one should remember that it can only be applied to the individual because it has first been applied to the whole Church. Christ has no other Bride but his Church, whom he espoused on Calvary.

It follows that there is no other way for any of us to go to heaven save as a Bride of Christ. That applies as much to the curmudgeonly old bachelor as the lissome girl. Strange thought! But if today you are alone and feeling that there is no one very much to care about you, and no one in particular for you to love in return, consider this: by virtue of your baptism you are espoused to him before whom the sun and moon bow down. Jesus is not your boyfriend, but he loves you more than you could ever possibly imagine.


7 thoughts on “Jesus is not my Boyfriend”

  1. I gave a Valentines lunch yesterday , at the table sat a Northern Presbyterian, a former communist(now just a young atheist), and three Muslims. Each were given a chocolate rose none were boyfriend or girlfriend to me but friendship and mutual understanding was the order of the day.

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  3. ‘Jesus… loves you more than you could ever possibly imagine.”

    How does one come to know and experience this truly and deeply?

    Can he love everyone, and anyone?

    Is this something that Christians ought to know, or ought to know and feel?

  4. Thank you for your comments, I hope you all had a happy day, too. Your questions are very deep and cannot be answered in a few lines, Margaret, but yes, Jesus Christ does indeed love everyone. The relationship between Christ and the Church is expressed by St Paul in terms of a marriage covenant in which God always takes the initiative. Knowing that God loves you is not the same as feeling it but sometimes part of the problem is that we struggle too much. The only advice I can give you is to try to relax and allow yourself to be led by God. On the whole, ‘feelings’ are a very poor guide in the spiritual life but God does not mean his love to be all hard work and no joy.

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